Sounds drastic. Especially for content creators who may still need Tumblr for commissions while they find an alternative.
If you can swing it, here’s why:
I suspect that the December 17th deadline is so that Verizon/Yahoo can clean house and make Tumblr appealing to investors. This is a Q4/Q1 fire sale kind of thing. It makes a certain amount of business sense to make this change. Human-lead content curation (e.g. separating the CP from the legit) is expensive and time-consuming. I doubt they have the money for it. They already sold off Flickr. As a long-time Flickr pro user, I’m not pleased by the change and increase in pro account price, but I get it.
Investors are looking for a user base. User base is a prime attraction for investment or buy-out for a social media platform or application (I speak from experience as a co-founder of Rhinobird.tv).
Every account that is cancelled will be one less account in Tumblr’s user base for their pitch. I assume that there are millions of accounts with some percentage simply being abandoned accounts that haven’t been used in years. So cancelling one’s account on the way out the door won’t really matter unless the number of cancelled accounts reaches several hundred thousand at least.
If you decide to leave and cancel, then I also recommend sending a polite message to Tumblr staff, or tweet to the account about why you are leaving.
Finally, using Twitter to voice your concerns and thoughts about this issue will increase its visibility. They ain’t gonna like that. Media outlets that cater to tech entrepreneurs, and Silicon Valley types are going to be all over this.
I never ask for reblogs, but I will this one time.
When discussing the subject, GRRM says that “divorce simply isn’t common” in Westeros, which suggests that it does exist, but is very rare and may have certain requirements that most unhappy marriages do not qualify for. (Or perhaps it may only exist in places less controlled by the Faith of the Seven, similar to how in our world the Catholic church prohibited divorce in medieval Europe, though it had existed in Roman times and among Jews, etc.) But at any rate, the word “divorce” has never been used in the books, so I have zero details to give you regarding laws and such on that matter, I’m afraid.
However, there are two other options. The first appears to be some form of legal separation or estrangement. We have the example of Doran and Mellario, where after she became unhappy in the marriage and couldn’t bear living with her husband anymore, she returned home to Norvos. Which added to her unhappiness, since she had to leave her children behind – which suggests that either a father’s rights count for more than a mother’s in Westeros, or that because Doran was Prince of Dorne and their children were his heirs, Mellario simply wasn’t allowed to take them with her. (And definitely not Quentyn, as he had been fostered away with the Yronwoods, which was the original source of her distress.) Which isn’t to say that they couldn’t visit later (as Quentyn wishes he had) or were otherwise not permitted to see her, but they couldn’t live in Norvos with her. Note that Doran and Mellario must maintain some form of contact (though it may not be financial as she may be independently wealthy), as he sent Andrey Dalt to serve her in Norvos for three years. Also note that while Doran and Mellario are well-known to be separated, they are still legally married, as Tywin rejects Doran as a possible new husband for Cersei due to the fact that Mellario is still alive. And further note that Doran has not taken a paramour, even though in Dorne probably nobody would blink if he did.
Another estranged couple we know of is Balon Greyjoy and his wife Alannys Harlaw. This came about because of Alannys’s deep depression after the death of her elder sons in Balon’s rebellion, and the sending away of her youngest, Theon, as a hostage afterwards. Her pain was briefly eased when she fostered some boys at Pyke, but eventually her madness increased and her health decreased, and she returned home to her sister and brother at Harlaw. We don’t know how formal a separation it was, or if it was only an estrangement because of her health, as none of their relatives really seem to talk about them in connection with each other; only that Asha was somewhat surprised that Alannys outlived her husband in the end. Also while Balon could take a salt wife (and definitely did when he was younger), it’s interesting that no present one is mentioned by anyone during the course of the books.
And one more estranged couple – actually, two estrangements, in one of the otherwise longest and reportedly happiest and most loving marriages in all of Westeros, that of King Jaehaerys I Targaryen and his sister-queen Alysanne. While they were married in 50 AC and Jaehaerys became a widower around 100 AC, they were recorded to have been married only forty-six years. The discrepancy is due to the years of their separations, in the First and Second Quarrels. We don’t know what caused the First Quarrel or when it happened, though it must have lasted about two years; but the Second Quarrel began in 92 AC after Jaehaerys passed over his granddaughter Rhaenys in the succession (and Alysanne said if he considered women of less use, then he didn’t need her either), and lasted until 94 AC when they were reconciled through the efforts of their daughter Septa Maegelle. Anyway, the fact that history books exclude the years of the Quarrels from the length of Jaehaerys and Alysanne’s marriage tells us that the estrangements must have been formal and legal separations of some kind, even if we don’t know the details as such. (GRRM will probably give more info in Fire and Blood, whenever that comes out.)
The other option to end a marriage is through an annulment. In the books, this is known as putting a marriage aside, or having it undone or dissolved, and legally means that it never happened at all. We actually have quite a lot of data for this:
When it comes to ‘do fathers have more rights or is it because they’re the heirs to Dorne’ I think it’s a little of column A and a little of column B. In Westeros, children are considered members of the father’s house and carry on their name and line, legally. It wouldn’t surprise me if that gave the father (or at least the father’s house) all legal rights in deciding where the children would be raised, what they were doing, etc.
As for them being the heirs, yeah. House Martell (and quite possible a chunk of their banner men) wouldn’t give them up without a fight. Considering Mellario was living in Dorne, there were almost certainly too many Dornish guards who could overwhelm any soldiers she may have brought with them and taken the children back.
So I can’t brush my teeth. Like, it’s the worst kind of hell. I went to the dentist for a cleaning today and I told the hygienist this, and she was wonderfully helpful.
There are some incredibly soft toothbrushes available- namely, post-surgical brushes. Running them under hot water makes them even softer.
She told me that you don’t really need to use toothpaste- it’s mostly marketing. The foam gets to me, so that is really reassuring.
She gave me two particularly soft brushes and some xylitol gum. Trident is a market brand of xylitol gum, which helps with your teeth and can make your breath smell better.
The whole purpose of brushing is to disrupt plaque buildup. You don’t need to brush twice a day, every day with toothpaste if you brush correctly- little circles, focusing on near the gums (where most plaque builds up). So if you’re having a bad sensory day and can’t brush at all, it’s not the end of the world.
Hell, you don’t even need a toothbrush if even the post-surgical ones are too harsh. Going over your teeth with the same motions using a washcloth is enough.
She wants to find a fluoride rinse that has a taste I can stand (peppermint is the only mint I can stand) but she’s not particularly worried about it.
I go to Dr. Barr in Chicago. If you can get to the State St. Macy’s, his office is nearby. He’s very kind and patient and really understanding of my needs as an autistic person. The hygienist, I don’t know her name, announced everything she was going to do before she did it, and stopped frequently to see how I was doing.
This is really the only positive dentist I’ve ever had- past dentists have been too rough and not bothered to help find ways I can actually brush.
Basically this is a glowing recommendation for Dr. Barr’s office if you’re autistic, afraid of dentists, or have sensory needs. This is a recommendation even if you don’t have any of those things.
Im actually crying i feel like this post was reblogged for me oh my god oh my god oh my lord thank you
You can also dilute your mouthwash and use it to swish around if it burns. My dentist does this so consider it dentally approved
If you were feeling guilty about your brushing habits, either due to sensory issues, pain, allergies, executive dysfunction, or just plain fatigue, here’s what you need to know about what is and isn’t necessary if your dental care!
Xylitol gum is also really useful if you have executive function problems getting ready for bed. Eating a snack in bed helps me go to sleep and getting up to brush my teeth isn’t always practical afterwards; so I brush earlier in the evening, make sure my snack mostly consists of tooth-friendly foods like apple slices, and chew xylitol gum afterwards.
I did this last year and inexplicably turned out to be eligible for Medicaid in WV, which I STILL have. Absolute and total lifechanger that’s letting me go to school instead of having to work full time.
Copying @xfreischutz‘s tags because it was a really good point. The dates for now are the same as last year. Get out there and get you your health insurance!
(Personal note: I qualified for Medicaid in Pennsylvania last year and I wasn’t expecting it. It really does help if you do it.)
NOTE – the Trump administration has allowed the sale of short term and catastrophic coverage plans. DO NOT BUY THESE. THEY WILL NOT HELP YOU. THEY ARE PREDATORY.
Make sure, if you qualify for ACA coverage, that you are purchasing a plan that is at least Silver tier!
so for some ungodly reason tumblr staff decided it’d be a good idea to allow flashy gifs or incredibly bright images to be a background for the login screen. a lot of people i know are photosensitive and prone to headaches or other, worse things that can be caused by this. so naturally i wrote a small script to disable those completely. hopefully permanently.
you can find it here. you’ll need the browser extension/addon stylish for it to work, which you should be able to get from the website itself if i remember correctly. hope it helps someone o7
This is seriously so important. I suffer epilepsy and am extremly photosensitive, as I am sure a lot of other epileptics are. Please, spread this around, you could seriously save someone.
For our epileptic followers
Hi everyone! I know this isn’t a funny gif post, but I’m extremely photosensitive and know that many others with fibro are as well.
At my last company, one day someone in accounting approached me at lunch and quietly told me I need to ask for a raise because I was way underpaid.
They gave me a number to shoot for. It was about twice than what I had been making at the time.
So I went online, did some research, found some figures backing up my claim, put it all together and went to my boss.
I got what I asked for.
If it hadn’t been for that person in accounting telling me I was way underpaid, I’d have never known. I went from barely scraping by to being able to have a savings account and getting all my debts paid thanks to them.
You should at least check sites like salary.com to start the process of seeing what you should be making.
Because this is crucially important
Except for the fact that 90% of the time you are under contract not to talk about your salary otherwise the company can sue you. Every job I’ve had I’ve had to sign that I won’t discuss my pay with other employees otherwise my employment is terminated and the company will take legal action.
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